Too often we judge films we see by how we wished they were
or had been,
NOT as how they ARE or WERE.

Too often we judge life, our lives, by how we think it should be
or should have been
NOT as it IS or WAS.

Too often we judge others by how we believe they should BE according to our own life and experience,
NOT how they are in that great mystery of THEIR OWN life and experience.